- Moshe Ben-Chaim
- Reader: I AM IN A GREAT DELLEMMA AS TO HOW TO INTERACT WITH
MY BROTHER WHO RECENTLY MARRIED A GENTILE.WE BOTH WENT TO YESHIVA AS
CHILDREN AND GREW UP IN A SHOMER SHABBAT HOME BUT AS NEITHER OF MY
PARENTS ARE ALIVE MY BROTHER AND I HAVE GONE DIFFERENT WAYS ON
RELIGION.I CONTINUED GOING TO SHUL EVERYDAY AFTER HAVING STOPPED
SAYING KADDESH FOR MY MOTHER 2 YEARS AGO BUT MY BROTHER SINCE HAS
DIVORCED HIS WIFE WHO WAS JEWISH ( ALTHO THEY DID NOT KEEP SHABBOS
)AND MARRIED A GOY.MY BROTHER WAS A VERY GOOD SON WHEN MY MOTHER WAS
ALIVE AND HE DID ABOVE AND BEYOND THE CALL OF DUTY ( AS DID I ) TO
LOOK AFTER HER NEEDS.MY QUESTION IS HE ASKS ME MANY TIMES TO MEET HIS
WIFE BUT IN CLEAR CONCIENCE I HAVE NO WISH TO MEET HER BUT WOULD STILL
WANT TO BE CLOSE TO MY BROTHER.PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR VIEWS ON THIS
MATTER. THANK YOU.PLEASE DO NOT USE MY NAME OR EMAIL ADDRESS ON YOUR
- Mesora: If Avraham Avinu spoke
with idolaters to help them back on the right track,why can't you
speak with your brother for doing a lesser crime?
- Intermarriage is something which we all must dissuade others from
committing. The consequences include the cancellation of potential
Jews, as all children born of Gentile mothers are not Jewish.
- The Torah in no way condones intermarriage which is at the very core
of the current destruction of the Jewish people. We even have many
protective laws guarding against intermarriage. However, once one has
intermarried, we must be objective about the new situation - however
grave. Leaving all emotions aside, we should communicate with those
intermarried, keeping our relationship strong, perhaps in time they
will be exposed to ideas, eventually seeing Judaism's tenets as true.
- Tell them about our site, but not so soon. First, reestablish a
connection with both of them for now.
- All other religions distort ideas regarding true monotheism.
Intermarriage therefore is a an acceptance of other religions - a
denial of God's word, and His Oneness. It is an act which denies all
the principles of the Torah. If one marries a Christian, he goes
further and he displays an acceptance of idolatry. God gave one
system, Judaism. Marrying someone from another religion is an
acceptance of that religion to some degree, and Judaism is intolerant
of any degree of acceptance of alien notions.
- God's word and His Torah are perfect, not to be altered at all, as
we are commanded not to add or subtract from the Torah, or veer from
the words of the Rabbis.